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In the Valley

In Uncategorized on March 28, 2012 at 7:57 pm

I’ve been absent for a while. Things have been rather rough for my family. Many of you have so surrounded me and my family in your prayers, and for that I am forever thankful.

Those prayers have honestly made all the difference. God has walked with my family through these valleys, and while not everything is resolved I have hope that God will continue to sustain us as we walk on…

One day at a time.

One prayer at a time.

Happy Fridays

In Uncategorized on March 18, 2012 at 1:50 pm

Phillip is cool. He is perhaps the coolest person I know. He is full of great ideas that often take me surprise, not because he had then but surprise at how often he has such great ideas.

Before I go farther I should probably also include that Phillip and I are celebrators. We love celebrating life, people, God, food, (insert celebratory worthy subject here) as often as possible. So yeah any chance to celebrate something and we will be all over it.

Well one of Phillip’s many awesome ideas came about this past February. He decided that we should do more to celebrate Fridays, since they represent the end of our work week. As he is completely fluent in the Brock love language he decided that we should celebrate with food and time. So for for the past two months we have woken up early on Fridays and prepared a large breakfast to enjoy together…sometimes over a book of common prayer, sometimes over sports center.

There is almost always eggs (normally scrambled with some veggies), sometimes pancakes, and always hashbrowns.

Needless to say this new tradition has made Fridays, and honestly life in general, more special.

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In Ovary News…

In Uncategorized on March 17, 2012 at 8:36 pm
Happy International Woman’s Day over a week late (I know, I know…)
…and what a time to be a woman. For several weeks now women’s issues have been swirling around in the news. Virginia, my home state, has become rather infamous for the actions of the state legislature this term.They have been trying to decrease women’s access to receiving an abortion and with that created quite a fuss from women who support having a choice in the matter, and plenty of other men and women who saw the bills being proposed as way to broad and likely to have unintended consequences (basically making it hard for me to have access to contraception, or saying I could be liable should I have a miscarriage). I was already frustrated with the way this national conversation on women and their reproductive health is progressing; when this morning I saw a headline highlighting a bill that if passed would allow doctors to withhold medical information from women regarding the health of their baby in hopes that it would prevent her from choosing to have an abortion.
Let me pause to make something clear. I am pro-life. I do not support abortion. I also do not support war. I do not support the death penalty. I try to not support anything that leads to loss of life.
Let me also be clear that this whole debate around abortion is completely pissing me off in the way it considered women. While I am upset with the idea that the government can mandate that information be allowed to be withheld from women, I am most upset with the conservative politics behind all of this legislation and the much of our social welfare public policy in the United States.
Just once instead of legislation such as what they are trying to pass in the Virginia legislature,  could we instead have conservatives talking about why it is that so many have abortions in this country? Could we start a conversation around how to better support women and girls who find themselves pregnant so that they do not even have to consider abortion?
As someone who works in the public welfare sphere I am so sick of watching conservatives talk about all their family values, but not really doing anything to promote healthy families beyond moralistic “do this’s” and “don’t do that’s”.
My take…Want to end abortion? Make birth control free. Let’s give teenagers quality sex education about it in school. Let’s guarantee quality, subsidized day care and pre-school for all children. Let’s provide every pregnant woman with health care regardless of her ability to pay. Let’s mandate paid maternity leave for at least 9 months. Let’s provide women with a legal right to a six-hour work day until their child is 3 years old. Let’s make sure that women are paid the same amount as men. Let’s provide tax incentives and/or mandates to employers to provide childcare on site for women with infants. Let’s pay everyone a living wage so that even women working at McDonald’s know they can feed their children. Let’s provide every child with heath care until they enter high school. Let’s actually create a system where if a child’s father does not pay child support the government steps up and pays child support to that woman and her child. Let’s pass legislation that requires companies to do more to retain working mothers, and punishes them for discriminating against both mother and fathers. Let’s get serious about addressing the lack of affordable housing in this country, thus better allowing women and families to find a place to live and raise their children. Let’s get a commitment from every pro-life christian that they will adopt and or foster any unwanted child.
Yes, let’s start with these things, and then perhaps talk about your desire to pass legislation requiring women to have an ultrasound before an abortion. We could actually pass legislation that does not have us simply preaching at people to not do something; but instead has us coming alongside women and men with love and so much support that they would not have to consider abortion.
And while we are at it let’s drop all of our qualifications around why it is okay to be pro-life regarding abortion, and also support war and the death penalty. I cannot understand this position of conservatives. And I know that many people who support abortion see nothing but hypocrisy in conservatives who fight tooth and nail to overturn Roe v. Wade, but have no problem executing people and dropping bombs on children in other countries. The fact of the matter is that all of these things end lives. I know that very deep and convincing arguments can be made about why it is okay to kill bad people. The thing is very convincing arguments can be made for why it is okay to abort a baby. Can we have a little integrity here? Can we be all in? Jesus never said we would conquer these issues. He never said we would beat back the warlords. That serial killers would not run wild. That unborn children would not sometimes endanger the life of their mothers. Jesus did not say a lot about winning or proving our point. He did show us about living a life of integrity where you are willing to go to the cross and sacrifice yourself for other people’s wrongdoings. It sounds like a bunch of foolishness.
And really it is our only hope.
So let’s put our money where our mouths are shall we?

Thursday Revisited

In Uncategorized on March 17, 2012 at 2:45 pm

I’m not sure what happened but most pictures from my last post did not show up. So here is a glimpse of the lovely Thursday I was blessed with…

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Happy Thursday

In Uncategorized on March 15, 2012 at 4:55 pm

Today is a good day. A shining day in what has been a long and traumatic week.
Today I woke up early, went to my favorite spot for breakfast, chai and cookies, and then did not go to work.

For my own enjoyment I will repeat that I did not go to work.

Instead I headed across town to a Holiday Inn for a training on using art therapy for people who are grieving. It was a great training, filled with all sorts of art interventions that I cannot wait to use with my clients (And may you be forewarned that if I run into you in person over the next few days I may talk to you about the chemical makeup of tears and why it is so important to cry.)

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It was a smaller group training than I am used to, but I enjoyed the intimacy of it. Even better is that I went with several co-workers whom I greatly enjoy. We went to get Mexican food on our break and resisted the waiter’s suggestion that we get margaritas with our food.

My co-worker Kate and I were not quite as reserved after the training. We headed to a mutual favorite, Garnetts, to enjoy their fantastic happy hour, Kate’s birthday, and life in general. We talked work, food, family, hobbies, and the ever maddening Virginia legislature. It was a great time.
Since it was actually hot in RVA today we skipped the red wine and went for a cool white. Naturally we supplemented this massive amounts of carbs.

After our snack we walked around the park across the street, petted other people’s dogs, and laughed at my feet that had swollen in the heat. Kate eventually left, and I settled down into the grass to enjoy all the beauty.

The warm sunshine and breeze was so relaxing that I soon felt myself dosing off. I could have resisted, but I did not.

And sometimes that makes all the difference.

Will Run for Food

In Uncategorized on March 12, 2012 at 10:11 pm

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Phillip and I ran almost six miles this afternoon…Monday night pizza did not stand a chance.

It Was Good.

In Uncategorized on March 11, 2012 at 9:14 pm

It has been a pretty awesome weekend…

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Full of some of the people we love most.
Relationships when they are bad can hurt like hell…
But when they are good?
When they are good the joy they bring can outshine any pain or sorrow.
This weekend I found joy everywhere, and I drank cup after cup.

The Dress

In Uncategorized on March 10, 2012 at 9:02 am

The other day I finished sewing my first dress and was excited to wear it to work. Somehow I thought it would make my whole day better; much like the way we think that Starbucks latte is critical to a paper being written or a new outfit will help us at that job interview.

I wore my dress. I got compliments from my co-workers. I felt artistically accomlished…and then I was hastily reminded that dress or no dress I was still a social worker and life is serious no matter what you are wearing.

One of my clients showed up for our therapy session suicidal, so me and my dress spent the next three hours assessing and ultimately hospitalizing this client…with much support from Jesus and my awesome co-workers.

It was not my first time doing it, but it is never pleasant.

To help shake it off Phil took me and my dress out to eat. We had a good time. Lots of laughs, good food, and prayers and preparation for the upcoming soccer season with the Bensley Cornerstone kids.

Welcome to the world dress. Today was an interesting day, but I was thankful for you being a part of it.

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AM

In Uncategorized on March 8, 2012 at 7:35 pm

I’m glad when my mornings at work are slow enough that they can start off like this:

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Girl Talk.

In Uncategorized on March 5, 2012 at 1:30 pm

Whenever I get together with my friend Shari I have such a great time. She is someone I literally could talk with for hours.

We met up at Garnetts (voted Richmond’s cutest restaurant by Phillip and I) to enjoy each other and the happy hour small plate specials.

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I meant to snap a picture of my beautiful friend, but I kept being distracted by the conversation…

I suppose that’s the way it goes when you are with one of your best friends.